Intimacy and self-protection are mutually exclusive It has occurred to me recently how often my clients and parishioners are living in a defensive mode, trying to protect themselves from perceived attack/abuse by a loved one. This is a natural instinct, of course, but ironic, since self-protection kills intimacy. Intimacy comes from vulnerability, willingness to openContinue reading “Self-protection kills intimacy”
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Six Words That Would Transform Most Marriages
[This post was previously titled My Book About Sex] If I could write just one book that would transform most marriages, it would have two chapters, and six words. In fact, I’ll write that book right now. I will release all copyrights to it, and you are free to distribute this fantastic advice from aContinue reading “Six Words That Would Transform Most Marriages”
Can you define what a healthy relationship is?
What is a healthy relationship? It seems like an easy question to answer, but there are thousands of people who would be stumped by it. Many have never seen a healthy relationship, don’t know anyone who has one, and certainly never experienced one for themselves. Are you one of those people? A healthy relationship isContinue reading “Can you define what a healthy relationship is?”
Dr. John Gottman on How to Build Trust
Dr. John Gottman on How to Build Trust Dr. John Gottman is the foremost expert in the world on relationships and how they work (and don’t work). When Dr. Gottman speaks, every person in a relationship should listen. He’s the real deal. Here we learn that building trust happens in small moments, moments that areContinue reading “Dr. John Gottman on How to Build Trust”
To everyone who has ever church-shopped (and everyone who has given up)
I have a friend who has a friend who is looking for a good church. In the middle of his search, he went to a church where he heard that “the church is not meant to serve you and meet all your needs.” Now he is feeling guilty for even looking for a church thatContinue reading “To everyone who has ever church-shopped (and everyone who has given up)”
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