What is a healthy relationship? It seems like an easy question to answer, but there are thousands of people who would be stumped by it. Many have never seen a healthy relationship, don’t know anyone who has one, and certainly never experienced one for themselves. Are you one of those people? A healthy relationship isContinue reading “Can you define what a healthy relationship is?”
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How to break up with your church, prt. 5 (of 5)
…continued from How to break up with your church, prt. 4 5. When you break up with your church, be aware that pastors can bumble these moments as easily as anyone else. Some will bumble it badly. I hate to be the bearer of bad news but as a group, pastors are no more matureContinue reading “How to break up with your church, prt. 5 (of 5)”
How to break up with your church, prt. 4 (of 5)
…continued from How to break up with your church, prt. 3 4. Common characteristics of those who have broken up with my church in a loving, healthy, and classy way They set up a time to meet with me and affirm their love and respect for me, and that they look forward to meeting withContinue reading “How to break up with your church, prt. 4 (of 5)”
How to break up with your church, prt. 3 (of 5)
…continued from How to break up with your church, prt. 2 3. Do not break up with your church by sneaking out, or sending an email, letter, text message, or voice mail Mature people break up with a conversation, face to face, if possible. Among the immature ways people break up with the church, sneaking outContinue reading “How to break up with your church, prt. 3 (of 5)”
How to break up with your church, prt. 2 (of 5)
…continued from How to break up with your church, prt. 1 2. When you break up with your church, avoid a litany of insults and criticisms In any human relationship, this will be destructive and hurtful, and it will certainly be the same for your relationship with your soon-to-be-former church and pastor. Every pastor hasContinue reading “How to break up with your church, prt. 2 (of 5)”
How to break up with your church, prt. 1 (of 5)
A fellow pastor wrote to me recently and asked me to write a post about how to leave your church. I instantly wondered why I had never thought of doing that before as I, and every other pastor, have been burned by people who leave in hurtful ways. Have you ever decided it was timeContinue reading “How to break up with your church, prt. 1 (of 5)”
Your Marriage: How to Move from Pain to Peace
I have mentioned Mort Fertel before. Mort is a marriage educator who has a pretty unique approach. I came across his website a few months ago and immediately signed up to receive his email updates, since that’s a great way for me to come to understand a person’s approach to helping marriages. Today’s post isContinue reading “Your Marriage: How to Move from Pain to Peace”
Why Divorce Must Be An Option, Christian or Not
The power of choice Years ago I came to what felt like a dead-end in a job I had previously loved. As the months passed I grew more and more frustrated and would occasionally call a friend and complain to him about how miserable I was and how trapped I felt. I would go onContinue reading “Why Divorce Must Be An Option, Christian or Not”
Marriage Hope: 10 Things You Can Do TODAY If You Are in a Bad Marriage
Image courtesy of Ed Yourdon via Flickr under Creative Commons License While reading yesterday’s post you may have realized you are in a conflicted or devitalized type of marriage. The bad news about this is that these marriages end in divorce considerably more often than the other types. The good news, though, is that thereContinue reading “Marriage Hope: 10 Things You Can Do TODAY If You Are in a Bad Marriage”
Marriage Danger Signs
I was on NBC 25 News this morning doing a segment about signs that you may be dangerously close to divorce. My remarks were based substantially on the work of Dr. John Gottman, who has probably done more research on marriage than any other person in the country. I highly recommend his books.
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