Photo courtesy of Christolakis, via Flickr, under Creative Commons license This post is for people young or old who feel like they are still waiting for the life they want to arrive. While no one can unlock all doors and instantly give you that life, I have a few things to share, based on myContinue reading “How to Stumble Into the Life You Want”
Category Archives: RELATIONSHIP STUFF
Ten Naive Ideas About Marriage
Photo courtesy of Siddy Lam via Flickr. Used under Creative Commons license. Most couples are naive about how challenging and sometimes difficult marriage will turn out to be. This may sound cruel but studies show that it is important to burst some of these naive marriage bubbles in order to help ensure a happy marriage. GoodContinue reading “Ten Naive Ideas About Marriage”
The Couple Contract
Most couples who seek counseling are not doing well at all. Need I say that? They are both struggling greatly. There is no safe ground, no neutral territory. They cannot build good memories together because they fight over everything, even things meant to be healthy and good. Options are very limited. In such a situation,Continue reading “The Couple Contract”
Marriage Hope: 10 Things You Can Do TODAY If You Are in a Bad Marriage
Image courtesy of Ed Yourdon via Flickr under Creative Commons License While reading yesterday’s post you may have realized you are in a conflicted or devitalized type of marriage. The bad news about this is that these marriages end in divorce considerably more often than the other types. The good news, though, is that thereContinue reading “Marriage Hope: 10 Things You Can Do TODAY If You Are in a Bad Marriage”
Five Marriage Types — What Kind of Marriage are You In?
Photo courtesy of Elena Lagaria via Flickr, under Creative Commons License David Olson, in his exhaustive research on marriage, has found that marriages fall into one of five types. The Five Types Vitalized Partners in these marriages tend to agree on most things and have excellent communication and conflict resolution skills (the two skills withoutContinue reading “Five Marriage Types — What Kind of Marriage are You In?”
5 Ways to Fight the Feeling of Not Being Loved
My clients often report that they don’t feel loved by their spouse. People from abusive or neglectful homes may grow up with a deep sense of emptiness, of being unloved. They will invariably get married pinning all their hopes of love on their partner. When the partner ends up being imperfect, they will be disillusionedContinue reading “5 Ways to Fight the Feeling of Not Being Loved”
Why Not You? Why Not Today?
Image courtesy of blmiers2 via Flickr, under Creative Commons License Today someone is going to move a little bit closer to realizing their dream. Why not you? Today someone is going to spend a few minutes doing something that no one in the world is making them do, but that will change their life forever. WhyContinue reading “Why Not You? Why Not Today?”
I’m not okay, you’re not okay, and that’s okay
Image “Failure” from PixelPlacebo under Creative Commons License Nobody is okay Do you ever get sick of the fakeness of society how everybody walks around like everything is okay? I have never lived anywhere but in America, so I don’t know if what I observe and experience is unique to American culture, or Western culture, orContinue reading “I’m not okay, you’re not okay, and that’s okay”
Do You Have the Guts to Be a Wimp?
I preach and write a lot about looking at your own flaws and leaving other people alone. Nearly every time I do someone says to me, “But there comes a time when you have to stand up for yourself. You don’t want to be a wimp and let people walk all over you.” Of courseContinue reading “Do You Have the Guts to Be a Wimp?”
Mistakes parents make, prt. 1
My wife and I had breakfast this morning with a young couple who have a baby. They are obviously excellent parents. It seems that the skills to be a great parent come naturally to some couples, but not to others. Ever seen Supernanny? Do kids have to be that wretchedly misbehaved before we could agreeContinue reading “Mistakes parents make, prt. 1”
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