Note: Before reading this post, you might consider reading the one before it that deals directly with the issue of men who don’t work. One of the TV’s at the gym this morning was doing a feature on women who get involved with convicted serial killers and marry them after they go to jail. It turnsContinue reading “Women who love men who won’t work”
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For a man, not working is not okay
“Girls, come downstairs! Mom and I need to talk to you.” Our three teenage daughters bounded down the stairs and took seats in the family room two summers ago. Christy and I launched into our carefully planned lecture. “Don’t get involved, girls, with men who won’t work. There is something deeply wrong with a manContinue reading “For a man, not working is not okay”
Apology from Kickstarter yields graceless responses
Read this apology from Kickstarter, and be sure to read several of the comments after it. This is what hard hearts and gracelessness look like. While most people are very cool, some actually articulate, “Until I get answers to (x and y), I’ll have to assume you were up to no good.” Or “Too little,Continue reading “Apology from Kickstarter yields graceless responses”
Twelve ways to intentionally cultivate character
12 ways to intentionally cultivate character: 1. Do whatever you must do to come to sense how deeply you are loved by God. 2. Constantly make the choice you know is right instead of the choice that is easy. 3. Never say a bad word about someone else. As you get better and better withContinue reading “Twelve ways to intentionally cultivate character”
[Guest-Posted Elsewhere]: Your Gift to the World
Below is an excerpt from a guest post I wrote. View the full piece at scott-williams.ca A great deal of my work is in premarital counseling, mostly with people who have never been married before. The main work I do in premarital counseling is help couples understand the often unreasonable expectations they have of eachContinue reading “[Guest-Posted Elsewhere]: Your Gift to the World”
What My Perfect Post Would Say
I realized today that my obsession with blogging is actually a search for the perfect post. I want to write a post that can heal the wounds of all who read it, that can turn a selfish reader into a selfless one, that can convince every reader that they don’t have to worry about theirContinue reading “What My Perfect Post Would Say”
Compassion vs. Approval/Disapproval
The Place of Compassion If you think of disapproval and approval of people [and their actions/attitudes/opinions] as two opposite ends of a continuum, where would you put compassion? It’s a trick question. Compassion doesn’t even belong on that continuum. Compassion is something wholly different. You will automatically tend to sit in judgment on whatever youContinue reading “Compassion vs. Approval/Disapproval”
Six Words That Would Transform Most Marriages
[This post was previously titled My Book About Sex] If I could write just one book that would transform most marriages, it would have two chapters, and six words. In fact, I’ll write that book right now. I will release all copyrights to it, and you are free to distribute this fantastic advice from aContinue reading “Six Words That Would Transform Most Marriages”
The Best Way to Live
When looking for examples of the best way to live and move the world forward, is it generally best to look to people above us or below us? Smarter or stupider? Braver or more cowardly? Happier or less happy? More or less content? More virtuous or less so? Nearly every universally respected person — MLKContinue reading “The Best Way to Live”
Five Things to Remember Before Sharing Truth with Someone
My work with individuals — students, parishioners, and clients — is built squarely on the critical role of truth and truth-telling. Below are some of my core beliefs about truth, and these core beliefs determine how I approach the truth in my work with people. I think more people (especially, but not only, religious people)Continue reading “Five Things to Remember Before Sharing Truth with Someone”
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