Therapy may often feel ineffective When you go to counseling, chances are good you will expect it to be something other than it is. Some people expect very little to happen. Others expect it to “fix” their problems. Many people think therapy is about getting “advice.” But therapy is unique. It’s not like talking toContinue reading “Things You Should Know About Therapy, prt. 2”
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Things You Should Know About Therapy, prt. 1
Whether you have been in counseling before, are considering calling a therapist, or think therapy is only for the weak, there are some important things you should know about therapy. In this series I’ll lay them out one at a time, so as to keep each post as brief as possible. The first of manyContinue reading “Things You Should Know About Therapy, prt. 1”
How Fear May Be Keeping You From Knowledge
A few weeks ago during the debate between Bill Nye and Ken Ham, Christians were posting stuff on Facebook like, “maybe you choose to believe we came from monkeys, but I believe the Bible.” Evolution in fact does not teach that human beings came from monkeys. It teaches that both humans and apes evolved fromContinue reading “How Fear May Be Keeping You From Knowledge”
Is Everyone Racist?
[featured-image link=”null” link_single=”inherit” single_newwindow=”false”]123rf.com[/featured-image] Intro to a controversial question: Is everyone racist? This article from The Onion recently provoked some good thoughts among some of my conservative brethren and really got me thinking about why it is that conservative arguments on various issues are so often dismissed as racist on some level. The issue ofContinue reading “Is Everyone Racist?”
How to Get Off of Your Hamster-Wheel
Meditation and the Hamster-Wheel The only hope for humanity to get off the hamster-wheel of existence is for every person to take up the discipline of meditation. It is the only pathway to move beyond human ego, constant want, and inability to see one’s self and one’s motives clearly. Without it, a person will alwaysContinue reading “How to Get Off of Your Hamster-Wheel”
Stop admiring your heroes and start emulating them!
Contempt for the process of becoming great Many in our society mock the geeky kid singing in the glee club, but revere that same kid when he grows up to be Steven Tyler or Carrie Underwood. Then the former mockers may well claim to be their “biggest fans.” Similarly, people often mock those who advocateContinue reading “Stop admiring your heroes and start emulating them!”
Dave’s #1 Rule for Living Well
A few years ago I was sitting in my office and began mulling over a personal financial issue. The more I mulled, the more upset I became. This turned into deep frustration, which quickly graduated to desperation laced with self-loathing. In the hysteria of the moment, I decided I had to quit my job rightContinue reading “Dave’s #1 Rule for Living Well”
What to do when you feel sad
Everybody has times when they feel blue, glum, sad, down-in-the-dumps, or bummed out. Many people refer to this as being “depressed,” but it’s not the same thing. Some depressed people, many of whom do not know they are depressed, may not feel sad at all, but rather angry, irritable, anxious, frustrated, numb, or other emotions.Continue reading “What to do when you feel sad”
How that wishy washy person might just be deep
It is easy to believe one thing passionately, to fight and die for that one thing, even. History is littered with the corpses of nameless people who believed one thing passionately enough to die for it. But it takes another breed of person entirely to passionately believe opposite things at the same time.That wishy washyContinue reading “How that wishy washy person might just be deep”
Self-protection kills intimacy
Intimacy and self-protection are mutually exclusive It has occurred to me recently how often my clients and parishioners are living in a defensive mode, trying to protect themselves from perceived attack/abuse by a loved one. This is a natural instinct, of course, but ironic, since self-protection kills intimacy. Intimacy comes from vulnerability, willingness to openContinue reading “Self-protection kills intimacy”
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