In my last post I mentioned that the best way to overcome anxiety is not to face it head-on, but to undermine it — to subvert it. This is just a way of saying that the old advice, “Try not to worry,” could not be more useless than it is. When we try not toContinue reading “Anxiety, prt. 2”
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Anxiety
Comedian Steven Wright describes chronic anxiety better than anyone else I’ve ever known. I will paraphrase him loosely here: You know that feeling when you’re sitting in a chair and you rock back on two legs and you go back too far and you start to fall, then at the last minute you catch yourself? Continue reading “Anxiety”
Bad ideas=Bad living
People will live bad lives to whatever extent they have adopted bad ideas. Dr. Phil has popularized the saying, “How’s that working for you?” In other words, when you do such and such thing, which comes from such and such belief, notion, or idea, what is the usual result and is it making your lifeContinue reading “Bad ideas=Bad living”
Letters from a perfectionist
Pretty much everything I do involves teaching. And whether I am in a counseling session with someone, teaching a class at Spring Arbor University, or preaching a sermon, I have noticed that nearly everyone responds positively to perfectionism. Perfectionism is popular in America. (Perhaps other places too, but I’ve never really been anywhere else —Continue reading “Letters from a perfectionist”
Me-Time
Something I am learning in counseling is how true it is that a tree is known by its fruit. Most of my life I have applied this to people and behaviors, but am only just now learning to apply it to attitudes and perspectives. If an attitude or perspective I have logically bears fruit of resentment,Continue reading “Me-Time”
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