It is easy to understand why some people are mystified by this idea that everyone needs to change only him/her self. If I take that seriously, it comes off sounding like I’m the ONLY one who needs to change. Most of us are not prepared to go from thinking everyone else on earth needs toContinue reading “Be the Change, prt. 2”
Category Archives: RELATIONSHIP STUFF
The importance of premarital counseling
What you don’t know can hurt you Have you ever noticed that we receive very little educational preparation for most of the truly important things in life? Most of us will have children without having ever had a class on parenting. We figure it out on our own. Some succeed. Many do not. OrContinue reading “The importance of premarital counseling”
12 things I want engaged couples to know
I do a lot of premarital counseling and I really enjoy it. It is fun to work with couples in this exciting stage of their lives. Everyone who is seeking to get married should get premarital counseling by an experienced pro-marriage counselor. This can be a pastor, LPC, psychologist, LMFT, MSW, etc., as long asContinue reading “12 things I want engaged couples to know”
How to be happy
If you are like nearly everyone else on this planet, your deepest desire is to be happy. The problem is, happiness cannot be found. How completely un-American for me to say this! After all, embedded in our Declaration of Independence is not only a right to BE happy, but the right to PURSUE happiness. ButContinue reading “How to be happy”
Finding a pro-marriage counselor
Counselors are not all pro-marriage. Did you know that? In fact, most counselors are pro- “individual happiness.” This means that many of them will prioritize personal happiness above a marriage relationship, which means if you are unhappy in your relationship, and unhappy in your efforts to improve the relationship, they will suggest and recommend divorce.Continue reading “Finding a pro-marriage counselor”
Dealing with failure
Have you ever felt like a failure? It has been a tough week for me. I have felt in some ways like I have failed in some important areas of my life. Since everybody fails sometimes (or feels like they have failed), I want to give you a process to work through when dealing withContinue reading “Dealing with failure”
Counseling myths
People who haven’t been to counseling (and that’s most people) only know counseling as it is portrayed on television and in the movies. This, of course, means they barely understand anything about the actual process at all. Here are some myths about counseling, and a few words about the truth. 1. Myth: Counselors always say,Continue reading “Counseling myths”
Possible signs of counseling quackery
One of the most legitimate fears people have about getting counseling is that they’re going to end up with a counselor who is a quack. The problem is that if you have never been through counseling before (and perhaps even if you have) how will you know quackery when you see it? Below are aContinue reading “Possible signs of counseling quackery”
3 steps if you think you might want to get counseling
Not everyone is resistant to counseling. Some people want to go but they are afraid, either because they have never been through it before, or because they had a bad experience last time they went. Here I will give you three specific steps to take if you think you might want to get counseling. 1.Continue reading “3 steps if you think you might want to get counseling”
Top excuses for not getting counseling, and my responses
At some point in life, everybody needs counseling. This is as irrefutably true as the statement, “At some point, everybody needs to see a doctor.” Here now are the top excuses it seems people have for avoiding counseling, and my responses to these excuses. 1. What’s happening in my life/our relationship is nobody’s businessContinue reading “Top excuses for not getting counseling, and my responses”
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