Today I want to give you the last five of ten questions and issues you may end up considering in counseling that is deeply transformational. 6. Where is God in the darkest, nastiest places in your life? We know God is with us, so wherever you are, God is there too. But what is GodContinue reading “Truly transformational counseling, prt. 2”
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Truly transformational counseling, prt. 1
Most counseling, if done well by the therapist, and taken seriously and applied by the client (both very big ifs), can be transformational on some level. But there is an approach that will dig WAY down, really help you uncover some amazing stuff about yourself, and help you get free to experience incredibly powerful change.Continue reading “Truly transformational counseling, prt. 1”
Heartquake
Until the moment my first child was born, I didn’t have the capacity to love a child. I know this because of the magnitude of the heartquake I experienced when I first saw her. In that moment, everything began to shake. All of my assumptions about myself. All of my selfish worries that I couldn’tContinue reading “Heartquake”
Getting Out There
I am a pastor (among other things). Quite often, I do not feel pastorly. Today is one of those days. I am not up to the challenges, or the level of concern I need to have for the rest of the world. Or really even for myself. I am overwhelmed. In times like this, IContinue reading “Getting Out There”
From the vault: Getting Help With Your Anxiety
It’s not always easy to know when your level of anxiety is “abnormal.” There are four D-words mental health workers use in assessing whether or not a certain behavior or emotion is normal. Danger. Deviance. Distress. Dysfunction. When it comes to anxiety, the last two are particularly helpful. If you need help with your anxiety,Continue reading “From the vault: Getting Help With Your Anxiety”
Getting help with depression
Do you need help with your depression? In this post I want to speak to the issue of getting the help you need if you suffer from depression and/or anxiety. As most people know, I received a B.S. in Clinical/Community Psychology in 1992, and an M.A. in Counseling in 1997. I have known what depressionContinue reading “Getting help with depression”
Anxiety and Depression: Coming Out of the Closet
In 2006, Approximately 15.7% of people reported being told by a health care provider that they had depression at some point in their lifetime; approximately 11.3% of people reported being told by a healthcare provider that they had anxiety at some point during their lifetime. Persons with current depression and a lifetime diagnosis of depressionContinue reading “Anxiety and Depression: Coming Out of the Closet”
Be the Change, prt. 5 — Presence
There but unaware Have you ever driven from one place to another and then realized that you could not remember actually driving? It seems like you were in a trance, like you stepped into the car at home and got out at your destination, right? You were there, but you were not present. Human beingsContinue reading “Be the Change, prt. 5 — Presence”
Be the Change, prt. 4
Scrapping the Presumption of Basic Rightness Bin Laden like you and me? How are Osama bin Laden and your angry, screaming boss alike? Answer: They both did what they did under the assumption that they were fully justified in doing it. In this way, most people are like bin Laden (please hear me out before theContinue reading “Be the Change, prt. 4”
Be the Change, prt. 3
“He alone is a true devotee of God who understands the pains and sufferings of others.” — Gandhi [source] My last two posts have been about being the change we wish to see in the world. In this post I will write about how to be the change, once you have seen how essential itContinue reading “Be the Change, prt. 3”
Temp Arbor 