If you have read all the posts in this series, you may by now thinking that what I am suggesting here is that you simply give up and become a doormat; that you resign yourself to being walked on by everybody, letting life steamroll you, and settling for whatever scraps fall from everyone else’s table.Continue reading “Embracing Powerlessness, prt. 4 — “Are you telling me to be a doormat?””
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Embracing Powerlessness, prt. 3
I said in my last post that in this one I would explore our true power. If you are just coming to my blog and have not read the two earlier posts in this series, please check them out before you read this one, because I am convinced that you will never understand your trueContinue reading “Embracing Powerlessness, prt. 3”
Embracing Powerlessness
There is freedom in embracing powerlessness. Most of the time we’re scurrying around trying to fix things — relationships, issues at work, problems with the cars, problems at our kids’ schools — our lives seem like a bewildering array of problems, all of which we believe we have to fix. We believe this deeply enoughContinue reading “Embracing Powerlessness”
Twelve suggestions for talking to people with chronic illness
Disclaimer: This post is in no way intended as a rebuke of anyone in my life. I am blessed to be surrounded by caring, compassionate people and have no complaints about how my friends and family treat me when I am sick. But I do hope this post can help and encourage even those withContinue reading “Twelve suggestions for talking to people with chronic illness”
From god to pariah — thoughts on Joe Paterno, prt.2
In my last post I told you that in this one I would share with you a way of avoiding the all-or-nothing thinking most people tend to adopt in situations like Joe Paterno’s, where we take a man who has been a hero all of his life and make him a pariah overnight because ofContinue reading “From god to pariah — thoughts on Joe Paterno, prt.2”
Divorce your spouse today!
WARNING: CONTENTS HAZARDOUS! READ CAREFULLY! If your marriage is in bad shape, I want to encourage you to divorce your spouse. Immediately. Don’t wait until you get home. Just divorce. It’s too hard carrying around the frustration and resentment you feel. It’s too exhausting dealing with your spouse’s insecurities and worries. It’s too constraining havingContinue reading “Divorce your spouse today!”
Why you should ditch pornography in your sex life – Reason 2
In my last post I explained that one reason to not use pornography in the bedroom is because communication between men and women is often so delicate and difficult that there is a lot of room for exploitation, intentional or unintentional. Once this occurs, it is in the relationship and cannot be easily reversed. ItContinue reading “Why you should ditch pornography in your sex life – Reason 2”
Why you should ditch pornography in your sex life – Reason 1
In my previous post I said the only two guidelines for sex in a marriage relationship are 1) it should not exploit or humiliate anyone; and 2) it should not involve anyone except the two partners (including vicariously through pornography). That post, as I expected, had very high readership, but no one asked me whyContinue reading “Why you should ditch pornography in your sex life – Reason 1”
Sex Advice for Premarital Couples (S is for Sex)
My middle daughter, Kyra, and I are continuing our commitment to blog all the way through the alphabet. Rather than lasting 26 days, we’re going on almost a year now, but we’re gonna get it done. I predict almost no one is going to care about how long this post is. It contains my bestContinue reading “Sex Advice for Premarital Couples (S is for Sex)”
Staying Open, Choosing Life
Today I was thinking about all the different perspectives people bring to the world. Some people are happy and optimistic. Some are always negative. Some believe if they work hard they will eventually succeed. Others believe in fate — that life is already laid out for them and there’s nothing they can do to changeContinue reading “Staying Open, Choosing Life”
Temp Arbor 