One of the most legitimate fears people have about getting counseling is that they’re going to end up with a counselor who is a quack. The problem is that if you have never been through counseling before (and perhaps even if you have) how will you know quackery when you see it? Below are aContinue reading “Possible signs of counseling quackery”
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3 steps if you think you might want to get counseling
Not everyone is resistant to counseling. Some people want to go but they are afraid, either because they have never been through it before, or because they had a bad experience last time they went. Here I will give you three specific steps to take if you think you might want to get counseling. 1.Continue reading “3 steps if you think you might want to get counseling”
Top excuses for not getting counseling, and my responses
At some point in life, everybody needs counseling. This is as irrefutably true as the statement, “At some point, everybody needs to see a doctor.” Here now are the top excuses it seems people have for avoiding counseling, and my responses to these excuses. 1. What’s happening in my life/our relationship is nobody’s businessContinue reading “Top excuses for not getting counseling, and my responses”
To my wife on our 23rd anniversary
This past Sunday was my 23rd anniversary. We’re trying to save money right now so we had agreed not to go away that day. I preached as usual. But I put together a little tribute to my wife and opened the sermon with it. I publish it here for posterity, to publicly acknowledge what sheContinue reading “To my wife on our 23rd anniversary”
Struggling with Faith
I’m not letting go of God, I’m just losing my grip. — Karen Bergquist, of Over the Rhine This one sentence powerfully captures the two ways people come to non-faith. The first is blatant rejection. Some people decide that this God stuff is nonsense and reach a point where they do not want to beContinue reading “Struggling with Faith”
Too Much Education?
In 2002, 27.2% of Americans had obtained a Bachelors degree. Only 7.6% have a Masters degree, and only 3% had earned a Ph.D. That means 73% of Americans have not graduated from college with a Bachelors degree. Of those 73%, I do not know how many are suspicious of who of us who have, butContinue reading “Too Much Education?”
Review of The Backup Plan
There is no reason to see this movie. Filled as it is with some decent messages about commitment (and fear thereof), it is not worth the price you must pay in order to cull them out. The price includes predictable dialogue, one-dimensional characters, and one of the most ridiculous child-birth scenes you will ever seeContinue reading “Review of The Backup Plan”
Review of Solitary Man
Ben Kalman can’t catch a break. When New York’s honest car dealer decides he doesn’t necessarily need to be honest and his empire collapses beneath him, for some reason business people don’t want anything to do with him anymore. When he betrays his girlfriend in the sickest way possible, she cruelly refuses to forgive him.Continue reading “Review of Solitary Man”
Q is for Quest
I am currently blogging, along with my daughter, all the way through the alphabet. Check out how the idea started, and get the rules here. If you had a write a story about your life, what would the plot of that story revolve around? Try finishing this sentence: The story of my life is a questContinue reading “Q is for Quest”
P is for Progress (Stages of Faith)
I am currently blogging, along with my daughter, all the way through the alphabet. Check out how the idea started, and get the rules here. James Fowler is best known for his pioneering work on stages of faith, showing how faith progresses over time. Here is my summary of his faith stages: Stage 1, ages 3-7Continue reading “P is for Progress (Stages of Faith)”
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